And this is one of them. My best friend has finally gotten off of E-Harmony and switched to Zouks. I was pleased about this, because she had set her options on the Harmony site to world wide, so most of guys she e-mailed with were not close enough to actually date. (Please paid close attention to that little factoid, for some unknown reason, she keeps setting herself up to fail, and I don't know why.)
So enter the Zousk web site and she sets it to local and starts getting hits from local guys that she can go on a date with. GOOD! GREAT!
Goes out with one guy, like him a whole lot, they text back and forth, he sets up a second date and NEVER shows up for it. At this point I'm afraid she will never date again. But miracles of miracles, she sets up two dates on the same day, a week later!
The first guy, all she tells me is that she ended up in a local park making out with him. . .WHAT!
The second guy she meets at a local restaurant and they have dinner and talk about their work and stuff like that. The date lasts about one hour as it is freezing cold in the restaurant. She hugs him good bye.
The next thing I know she is having sex with the first guy on the second day. Turns out he lives in the same apartment complex! Also, he has no job, no car, and oh ya, a prison record for drug dealing. Also, has never had a real job since prison record keeps him from getting hired. She believes all of this, because everything he says is the truth. . .of course.
At first it's just for sex. . .oh really, best friend? She does believe they are having a relationship, even although he keeps telling her he can't provide for her, since he doesn't have a job.
I believe he is saying "You are not my girlfriend, I am just stringing you along for sex."
She is hearing "When I get a job, I will take care of you and we will get married!"
Why do I believe this? Because this weekend we went to get our eyebrows done again and we stopped in a formal dress shop there and she looked at the red bridesmaid dresses and asked me if I would mind wearing red since it is his favorite color!
She is also talking about going places with him, in her car and her money.
Frankly the only thing this guy has going for him is that he hasn't taken her money. . .so far.
She is completely besotted with him.
And oh ya, the second guy? She didn't hear from him until the next Saturday at 9:00 p.m. when he started texting her about jacking off about thinking about her breast. She texted him back that she didn't know him, was really uncomfortable about this and she was turning off her phone. She is completely in the dark of why a school teacher would do that.
And here's why. . .she very casually and very, very quickly mentioned and moved on from the fact that when she set her options on this site, she didn't pick "I want a relationship." She picked "I want to have fun." Apparently she is completely clueless that means sex with no strings attached.
For the first two weeks I was going with this from her viewpoint, and then three days ago my sub-conscious reared up and smacked me. Oh! He's a complete loser. He's probably lieing to her. He's NOT her boyfriend.
And the fun setting? I am going to explain that to her. I know she will reject my explanation. I will try to tell her my opinion on her "boyfriend", but I have no hope she will dump him.
Would having a talk with the "boyfriend" be of any service?
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